Luisa & Niklas
August 29 & 30, 2025
Berlin, Germany
There is no fear in love
1 John 4:18
Celebration Schedule
Welcome Party
Friday, August 29, 2025
6:00 PM
Havelberger Str. 16A, 10559 Berlin
Casual
Quaker Service & Wedding Vows
Saturday, August 30, 2025
POST-WEDDING BREAKFAST
Sunday, August 31, 2025
10:30 AM
Sunny: Buchkantine - Dortmunder Str. 1, 10555 Berlin
Rain: Schwarzes Cafe - Kantstraße 148, 10623 Berlin
Casual
What to Expect at a Quaker Wedding
A Brief Introduction to the Service
Quakerism is a liberal Christian denomination. Since we do not follow liturgy in our services and have no pastor, here is some general information about the process of a wedding service.
In the simple setting of Quaker worship, we live our community with each other and with God. Quaker services usually last about an hour. Participants usually sit in a circle to be consciously aware of each other and to feel the connection with one another. Sometimes a short text is read at the beginning of the service, but many worship groups begin the service directly with silence. Usually it ends with a handshake from everyone present, and afterwards there is time and space for exchange and conversations over a cup of tea.
Our services can be completely wordless, but if one of the participants - regardless of age, gender, theological education - feels called and led to give testimony, he or she shares his or her experience in the form of a short contribution ("Ministry"). This speaking from silence is not a prepared sermon.
Process
Our wedding takes place in a silent worship service (Meeting for Worship). There is no officiant; we "marry ourselves" – before God and in the presence of the gathered community.
From the silence, we as the wedding couple are the first to break the silence and speak our wedding vows and sign a large marriage certificate first. Afterwards, it goes back into silence. In the further course, those present can – if they feel moved to do so – share short words, blessings, memories, own experiences or words about marriage in general; between contributions, silence remains again.
At the end, everyone is invited to sign the certificate as witnesses – a beautiful memento of the shared moment.
After you have signed, there will be a small reception with coffee & cake.
If you would like to learn more, this video gives further insight:
A few values and house rules
- Silence: Mobile phones should be in silent/airplane mode during the service
- Family: A one-hour silent service can be challenging for young and old. It is quite normal for restless children or bathroom breaks to create some movement in and out of the room.
- Bilingualism: It is tradition with us that spoken contributions from all meeting participants are translated into German/English. We have dedicated translators in our group for the day.
- Community: Community members are invited to our wedding service. All together we will sign a large marriage certificate at the end of the wedding.
- Moderation: Alcohol consumption during the service (including after or in front of the house) is not permitted. After the service we invite you to coffee and tea. We are happy to toast with you festively in the evening at the restaurant!
Contact
Your presence is our greatest gift. If you would still like to make us happy, we would be delighted with a contribution to our new home setup, for example in the form of a voucher or monetary gift.
For these and other questions, please contact our best man Marius using the form: